Category Archives: How to guides

Are You on the Right Career Path? Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

I just found out a close friend has cancer.  I was shocked by the news.  Although her cancer is highly treatable, it was a complete surprise.  She will need to go through 6 months of chemo and hell to recover.  I share this with you to help you step back from the daily grind and see…

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What Makes Us Happy & Motivated at Work – Three Ways to Gauge

More than a year ago, I changed jobs and managers within the same company.  I went from having one of the worst leaders I have ever experienced in my career, to having one of the best.  On my first day with this new leader, she asked me a simple question – what make you happy…

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5 Most Common Regrets in Life & How to Avoid Them

Last month, I heard this great talk by Jyri Engestrom, a successful Internet entrepreneur on the topics of happiness.  He said, most people have five regrets in life – all of which resonated with me.  And you probably would agree these are the most common regrets as well.  If so, then I ask you – why…

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How to Ask Someone to be Your Mentor – Dos and Donts

I am republishing this article with new content as my learning on how to ask someone to be your mentor has evolved. 🙂  Hope you will find it useful. We all need formal and informal mentors to help us grow and learn.   Young professionals have more of a need for formal mentors.   Seasoned professionals needs…

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Career Success – When Is the Best Time to Network

Many of us only remember to start networking when we hate our current job or when we are between jobs.  Unfortunately that is the worst time to start networking.  You can come across Negative –  If you are hating your job.  It’s inevitably you will complain about it while networking. No one likes to be around…

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How to Network Effectively – A Simple Framework to Take Action

When I wrote about How to Network without Using Small Talk , I received a lot of email responses and interest.  I am not surprised to hear that most found networking uncomfortable.  I am glad to hear these networking articles are making it a little less intimidating.   I wanted to continue on this journey with you…

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3 Soft Skills Lessons from Watching “Trolls”

I didn’t think this movie, Trolls, was going to be any good.  Both of my kids love the music in it.   Finally, we watched it last weekend.  I was only half watching it for the first 20 minutes.  It seemed like just a silly, happy cartoon, with lots of bright colors and singing.  …

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The Pain and Pleasure Challenge – Proven Way to Help You Take Action

Are you stuck?   Do you want something badly at work (e.g., promotion, work life balance, better boss, challenging assignment) but somehow can’t seem to take any action toward making it happen?  You are not alone.  Inertia, the inability to do something different from our routine, happens to all of us.  How do you do…

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Lei’s Six New Year Aspirations – Trust, Try, Learn, Evolve, Laugh, Give

I started this tradition last year and really liked how it influenced my decisions and actions the rest of the year.  I am doing it again this year to define my new year aspirations 1. Define ways to build new habits instead of setting goals.  I found this is helping me evolve into a better human being. 2. Post my new…

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How to Write a Good Self Evaluation – Follow 5 Tips

It’s self-evaluation time.  Are you ready to put your best foot forward? This is your chance to put the best representation of your work on permanent record and build your brand. Many people are too humble or too general in their self evaluation.  Don’t fall in that trap.  Being too humble will work against you….

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My Biggest Lessons Learned this Year

Happy Holidays!   Thank you for your interest and support of this blog.   I appreciate every email, comments, questions I got this year.  Whether it’s a thankful email or constructive criticism, I value them all.  Thank you for taking the time to engage with this site and with me. I hope you are taking some time to…

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Interpersonal Skills Example – Can You Let It Go?

This interpersonal skills example can happen any day at work or in life.  It was our second day in Beijing.  My cousin, my mom, and Isabel went to visit Tiananmen Square and the Forbidden City.  It was majestic, fun, but a super long walk.  By 1pm, we were all exhausted, hungry and decided to Uber back…

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Are You Happy? A New Path to Happiness

Last weekend, my hubby suddenly asked me “Are you happy?”  I didn’t know what to say, even after thinking about it. I asked him, “What do you mean? Are you talking about work?  Life?  Us?” He said, “No, just in general.” I asked, “Are you happy?”, still not knowing what to say. He said, “Yes.” Not…

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Real World Examples of Interpersonal Communication Skills

Interpersonal communication isn’t an exact science that can be solved with a math equation or with a formula. Interpersonal skills are complicated as they depend on the context of the situation, social cues and the personal experience of those involved. With so many different signals that can influence your communication, it’s important to have a tangible understanding of…

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Bad Leadership: 5 Warning Signs and 2 Simple Solutions

There can be many bad leaders in one organization.  Why?  Ironically, it’s because bad leadership creates a vicious cycle.  Bad leaders promote other bad leaders, either because they don’t know any better or they don’t want to be found out.  If you’re a kick-ass doer in an organization full of bad leaders, you won’t get promoted for one of…

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