My First Piano Recital – 3 Lessons Learned

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Last week, I performed my first piano recital.   My immediate reaction afterwards was I was “terrible.”  I literally made a mistake on 3 out of 4 songs, including forgetting where I was completely for a sec.  My fingers were shaking the whole time.

  • I was unprepared for the crowd.   It wasn’t supposed to be a regular recital.  My teacher told me it was more like background music, while people were walking around enjoying the Halloween decorations. She was misinformed.  People sat and listened to all the performances.
  • I psyched myself out.   I was one of the few adults performing.  The kid before me performed this beautiful piece.  She is much more advanced than I and only 9 years old.   The more I thought about her, the more nervous I became right before my performance.  “Is the crowd expecting Beethoven from me?”  I may be in my 40s, but my piano playing is merely beginner.
  • I didn’t expect to be nervous. Having presented in front of many senior executives and led large training sessions, I didn’t think I would be nervous in front of a small group of strangers at a community gathering.  I practiced the songs many times, but I wasn’t mentally prepared for any nervousness.  A rookie mistake!

I share this story because I know it’s hard to try something new when we are adults.   But I also know it’s the only way to evolve our skills and ourselves.   Here are 3 lesson learned from this less than perfect piano recital. ...  read more

Interpersonal Skills Example – Can You Let It Go?

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This interpersonal skills example can happen any day at work or in life.  It was our second day in Beijing.  My cousin, my mom, and Isabel went to visit Tiananmen Square and the Forbidden City.  It was majestic, fun, but a super long walk.  By 1pm, we were all exhausted, hungry and decided to Uber back to the hotel. ...  read more

Interpersonal Skills Example: How to Disagree with “The Boss”

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My cousin in China has been running a travel agency for 20 years. She’s one of those people who knows exactly how to maintain good relationships.  During my trip to China, I learned one interpersonal skills example after another from her.

First, some background: my oldest daughter and I visited our extended family in China together for the first time two months ago.  My parents decided to come, too, since grandpa turns 90 this year.  It was a four-generation family reunion!  While the following examples are all related to my family trip, they also apply to the work place. ...  read more

Real World Examples of Interpersonal Communication Skills

Interpersonal communication isn’t an exact science that can be solved with a math equation or with a formula. Interpersonal skills are complicated as they depend on the context of the situation, social cues and the personal experience of those involved. With so many different signals that can influence your communication, it’s important to have a tangible understanding of what good interpersonal communication entails.  Once you can master interpersonal communication,  you will benefit both personally and professionally. ...  read more