Tag Archives: words of wisdom

Eventually you will always find a parking spot

I volunteer at a healing center once a week. Since it is located in the shopping part of the city, parking is always hard to find. Sometimes, I am lucky and find one right across from the office right away. Other times, it will be take me 20-30 minutes and I would be 5 blocks…

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Inspiration for the New Year

Welcome to 2011!   I wanted to share with you a piece of paper I have had on my fridge for the last 5 years.  It’s an interview by Oprah of Maya Angelou on her 70+ birthday.  This interview happened a decade ago but Maya Angelou’s words seem timeless.  In case you have not read it,…

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Believe in Yourself – You are “Beautiful”

This post is not about external appearances.  This post is inspired by a recent show I saw onVH1 called Storytellers: Christina Aguilera.  It’s in a format where a music artist sings to a small group, and talks to the group about herself, her music, and her inspirations.  Christina’s story about her song “Beautiful” really caught my attention.

The piano player accompanying Christina on the show is Linda Perry, the writer of “Beautiful.”  Linda explains that while she may be a successful rock singer and a famous song writer to others, she also gets insecure about herself and her talent.  She wrote this song in order to inspire herself and others to believe in yourself, no matter what people say.

Christina chose to sing the song, and was able to record it in one take, because the lyrics really spoke to her.  As successful as she is, Christina also gets insecure at times.  She said these lyrics about believing in yourself seem to be written for her.  She wants to inspire her listeners as well – “Believe in yourself, no matter what people say.”  Here are some of the lyrics:

Every day is so wonderful
And suddenly, I saw debris
Now and then, I get insecure
From all the pain, I’m so ashamed

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring me down
So don’t you bring me down today


I am inspired by this story, because no matter what we are – tall, short, male, female, rich, poor, successful or not, good looking or not, we are all human – we can all get insecure at times.    It is what we do to deal with these low times that makes a difference.  Like Linda and Christina,  I choose to say “I am beautiful, no matter what they say – words can’t bring me down.”  I choose to believe in myself and my ability to overcome.  What about you?

Can you choose to believe in yourself?  That’s the first step in overcoming any obstacle in life and work.  Believing in yourself is a choice you can make any time.  Don’t let careless, scathing words from other people affect you.  No one is perfect.  As you face your job search, career development, or life challenges, you will also feel insecure at times – what will you choose to say?  I hope this song will inspire you to believe in yourself and look at life with hope and confidence.

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Best wishes in your career.  I am always in your corner.

– Lei

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Decide to Have a Good Day

The last few weeks have been stressful.  I have been juggling five projects/initiatives at the same time on a 32 hours a week schedule. Unexpected project issues are coming up left and right; requirements are misunderstood; customer experience risks are newly uncovered, etc… The end result is I have been taking my stress home after…

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Definition of Success

I was taught the definition of success in business school.  We just finished 4 weeks of pre-term (refresher courses on math, accounting etc..) before my official 1st year at Wharton began.  My accounting professor used most of the time in our last class to give us a lecture on success and what it means. He…

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Enjoy Often and Never Retire

Growing up, you always hear that everyone’s dream is to work hard, earn lots of money quickly and retire as early as possible  (maybe at 65, 55 or 45 if you can wing it).  Well, I say forget it!  That doesn’t sound like a dream at all.  Imagine working your butt off at 80 -100 hour weeks…

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Job search advice from Tony Robbins

I don’t know if you caught this interview or not on Larry King Live on Dec 3, 2009.  Tony Robbins along with Magic Johnson and others sits down with Larry King to provide some very sound job search advice for this tough market Here is a summary of Tony’s key points that hopefully can help…

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Ignore What-ifs, Just Do it

It is hard work to look for a job or to take our careers to the next level.  Often we have to learn new skills and conquer new challenges in order to make progress.   This is much easier said than done.  We are all creatures of comfort and doing anything new can often invoke confusion…

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Enjoy the Present

While winter holiday is almost over and I can just see everyone starting to worry about what will happen this year with either their job search or career, I say STOP.  There are still a few more days left before Monday January 4 (when work begins again). For now, put any worries you may have…

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Acknowledge Your Effort for Showing Up

“Acknowledge your effort for showing up.” That is what a Bikram teacher used to say to us at the end of every class.   To this day, I still repeat this phrase to myself during class.   It reminds me to appreciate myself for simply making the class, regardless of how inflexible I was, or how imperfectly…

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Resilience – Fall Seven Times, Stand up Eight

A good friend of mine (thanks Jamie) forwarded this video to me, and I thought it would be fitting to share it here. More than half of the battle in a job search is actually the emotional aspect — thinking positive, staying in action, and “standing up” when you feel “knocked down” by the lack of results. This type of resilience is what will separate those who give up from those who persevere.

This video is a commercial shot by Dwyane Wade. He may be short, he may get knocked down, but he always stands up to try again. As a result, he becomes one of the greatest basketball players ever.

Those who succeed in life are not usually the ones that never failed. In fact, it’s the opposite — successful people usually have some of the most spectacular stories of failures or dark hours. It’s how they responded to those challenges that make them great. Dwyane Wade went on to win the NBA championship and become MVP of the year.

So, next time you feel “knocked down” by life or your job search, I hope this video will inspire you to stand up and try again. Remember to also reach out to others for help.  Good luck out there!

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I am always in your corner.

– Lei

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We can all learn from a 1 year old!

My daughter is 1 year old and just started walking. I am amazed how relentless she is at learning how to walk. Every day she would fall down many times and then get right back up again to try again. Her face is full of excitement as she takes more steps and now only after…

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One Step at a Time

I am also not immune to have doubts once in awhile, despite my own advice. It’s human I guess. As I look at my blog posts, I think is the tone too preachy? would it help anyone? does it sound practical? Initial doubts can then easily lead to de-motivation if I indulge on them -…

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Key Differentiators in Job Search

Last week, I saw on the news. “Unemployment is now at 8.5% and FedEx just laid off a 1000+ employees.” It’s easy to feel depressed or demotivated with news like that especially for anyone looking for a job. Dwelling on those statistics will only make you doubt your ability to get that next job. For…

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