Good News – Some Stress is Good for You

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If you are feeling stressed at work, I may have good news.  Some stress is good for you!  According to research done by Elizabeth Kirby from UC Berkeley, we are actually not optimal or happy unless we have a moderate amount of stress in our life.

  1. Too little stress leads to boredom and even depression
  2. Too much stress leads to overwhelmed, feeling incapacitated and ultimately a meltdown

Many of us are familiar with the latter point and try our best to reduce stress.  This study is telling us however to have balance.   This explained a lot to me.   Prior to getting a full time job last year, I was working as a contractor for 6 years.   It was a great lifestyle but at times I was pretty bored.  I wondered during that time why I wasn’t happy.  I had everything I wanted, it seemed.  Now it all made sense.  I may have made enough money,and had all the flexibility to have a family, but I wasn’t challenged enough.  My brain was not happy. ...  read more

Lei’s New Year Aspiration – Enjoy Life

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Happy New Year everyone!  Hope you all had a great holiday or at least one that was better than mine.   I can’t believe it’s 2015.  Usually I love holidays as it gives me time to relax, regroup, and faced the new year with renewed energy.  I didn’t have such luck this holiday season.  Work was super stressful and I didn’t have as much time with the family as I would have liked. ...  read more

3 Soft Skills We Can Learn from Madison Bumgarner

Madison Bumgarner

On Oct 29, 2014, against all odds, the San Francisco Giants narrowly won Game 7 of the World Series against the Kansas City Royal by the score of 3 to 2.  I learned everything about baseball from my husband who is a diehard Giants fan.   Since meeting him 10 years ago, I have had much more appreciation for this game – all the strategy involved with the lineup, the pitching, and the catcher. ...  read more

Are You a “Pleaser Achiever”?

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A month ago, my boss mentioned that everyone on our team is a “Pleaser Achiever”?   I have been meaning to write about it ever since.  So what is a “Pleaser Achiever”, you may ask?  Well, let’s start with a simple quiz

  • When someone comes to you for help at work and your boss tells you you can say no, do you still try to help them?
  • When your manager gives you feedback on where you could improve, do you think about it extensively?
  • If you have a bad meeting with your boss, does it affect you the whole week?
  • If you have conflicts or disagreement with anyone at work, do you think about it at night?
  • Are you quick to apologize?

If you say yes to most or all the questions above, then you are a “Pleaser Achiever.”  Here are the common traits ...  read more

How to Stop Thinking about Work – 5 Tips

How to Stop thinking about work

It is critical to your mental and physical health to know How to Stop Thinking about Work.  This post is written for my benefit and yours, if you find yourself in a similar situation.

During the last six weeks, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about work.   I love my new job, and theoretically I am only working about 40 hours a week,  8:30 am to about 5:30pm, Monday through Friday.  I don’t take my computer home, and I only look at my work phone at home to check on my meeting schedule for the next day. ...  read more

Career Break – How Long Can You Take?

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Can you take a career break – time off from work to do other things like travel or be a full time mom?  If so, how long can you safely take a career break if you want to come back to work afterwards.  These are popular questions among new mothers with young children as well as from anyone who is burnt out by their career and need a break. ...  read more

Achieving Work Life Balance – A Letter to Myself

achieving work life balance

Achieving work life balance takes self-awareness, making tough choices, and being disciplined.  As a recovering over-achiever and perfectionist, this is hard for me.     My natural tendency with any job is to err on the side of working over-time and prioritizing my job above anything else.   The only reason I was able to maintain a healthy work life balance for the last six years was by contracting instead of working as a full time employee.  Being paid by the hour reminded me constantly to stay un-attached and avoid over-working. ...  read more