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Do You Work to Live or Live to Work – Answer These 10 Questions

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When I ask this question “do you work to live or live to work?  You may say, “I work to live.”  However are your actions and decision consistent with this response?  Below are 10 questions you can ask yourself to find out if you truly work to live.

Why the Answer to This Question is Not Simple

I think society has taught us – “To be happy we should work to live and not live to work.” as no one on their death bead ever regrets not working enough.   As a result, whenever anyone is asked this question, very few would ever admit that they live to work.  It’s just not as cool.   Our quick answer that “I work to live” actually means – “I want to work to live.  I don’t want to live to work as life is too short. ” ...  read more

How to Improve Your Life and Work Today? Try OACS

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I have been interviewing therapists to see if I can find one that is a good fit.   This post is not about recommending you to get a therapist.  That’s totally up to you.   It’s about sharing a useful tip one therapist shared with me that immediately improve my perspective and thus my life and work.   Apply OCAS!  What is OCAS?  I will get to that in a few paragraph. ...  read more

How to Be More Productive at Work – Shorten Meetings by 5 min

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Shorten meetings by 5 min?  How can that be more productive?  This concept may seem counter-intuitive but I think you will agree with me once you finish reading this post.    Have you noticed that our jobs now are full of meetings?  My meetings can run from 8am to 4pm with maybe one or two 30 min break in the middle.   This leaves very little time to think, plan, or work. ...  read more

How to Influence Others to Make Changes

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Do you know how to influence others to listen to your ideas?   The ability to influence others is one of the most important soft skills to develop, especially as you get more senior in your career.   It is more of an art than a science.  The good news is I believe anyone can master the influence skills if you put in efforts to develop it.  If I can learn it, so can you.   🙂 ...  read more

I Turned 50 and I Am Learning the Art of Not Giving a “F*ck”

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Hubby gave me a funny present for my birthday this year (see below).   He knows me well and it’s exactly what I needed.  I really cannot believe I am half a century old.  When I say I am 50 to others, I feel like I am talking about someone else.   I always thought that someone who is 50 years old is old and also have their sh*t together because they know how life works by this time. ...  read more

What’s Important But Not Urgent That You Are Not Doing for Your Career

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Recently, we had a group coaching call on how to increase your productivity – how to maximize and optimize the use of your mental and emotional energy so that you achieve your desired outcome.  One of the topics we touched on was a common mistake most people make in their career – neglecting to do what’s important but not urgent.  ...  read more

Four Deaths in One Week – Prioritize Life Now in Your Decisions

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Perhaps I am just getting older or perhaps it’s a life message that I need to hear.  I heard of four deaths that happened to my immediate friend circles this week and am saddened by their loss.   Two are my friends’ parent who died of old age and health issues in their 80s.  At least they lived a full life.  Two others are however people in their 50s and 60s.   Life can be so short and brutal. ...  read more