Real stories

A Good Example of Asking for What You Want and Getting It

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I just wrote about How to Ask for What You Want at work last week.  I happen to have a live example to share now which happened outside of work.  It is great to practice asking for what you want outside of work to help you better do it at work as well.   Here is what happened

Our Challenge at Hotel Registration

We just took a trip to Vegas to visit my husband’s godparents.  They are 87 and 89 years old.  We decided to stay at the Golden Nugget in downtown Fremont street vs staying with them just so we don’t trouble them too much.  We haven’t been to Vegas in 4 years but have stayed at the Golden Nugget before. ...  read more

The Gift of Covid was More than I Expected – Five Unexpected Gifts

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Am I being sarcastic?  Partly.  While there were definitely aspects of Covid that has been a huge pain to my family, there were truly also unexpected gifts.   Covid finally visited our household about 3 weeks ago.  First my husband and nanny got it and were quarantined and then a week later, my older daughter and I got it and switched places with them. ...  read more

Don’t Make These Fatal Mistakes in Your Job Search Communication

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For my full time job, I am hiring for 3 digital product managers to lead different aspects of end to end digital migration for our legacy private banking clients.  I wrote this post on Linkedin with some high level descriptions and asked those interested to DM me for a detailed job description.

A Real Example Of a Direct Message I Received

Below is a real message I received from a candidate interested in my posting.  I want to share it with you to help you avoid making the same fatal mistakes she made with her first communication to me, the hiring manager. ...  read more

My Failures in My 20s and What I Learned from Them

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I have never shared these stories before.  Perhaps it’s because it took me 20+ years to realize that I do not need to be ashamed of my “failures.”  Each one taught me something and in reality ended up working out better for me.  🙂  When they happened however, they were devastating to me and especially to my ego. ...  read more

I Have Always Been “Lucky” – Here is How You Can Be Too

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As I look back on 2021, I told Hubby we have been very lucky in our life and at my work.   He said “Lei, we make our luck.”  I said “I know, but what does that really mean?”  I always believed in it but had trouble explaining it to others.   Luck is after all based on random chance, right? ...  read more

What NOT to Do on LinkedIn – Three Key Tips

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Something weird happened to me on LinkedIn over the weekend.  I thought I share to help remind both you and I of what NOT to do on LinkedIn.     This really happened just two days ago.

Here is the backstory

I get a lot of requests to connect on LinkedIn, some from folks I know but many from folks I don’t know at all.    A month ago, I accepted an invite from someone I thought my husband mentioned I should meet.  Let’s call him Paul. ...  read more

Want to Learn Something New, Then What’s Stopping You

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Alexis, my 9 year old, was asking me all week to teach her how to ride a bike. Finally, I had time on Sunday to lower the seat on her sister’s bike and take her out. Alexis has never been on a two-wheel bike before.

Day 1 of Learning

When we got to the park, I realized she was expecting to learn how to ride the bike that day! When she didn’t get it after a few tries, she was upset. I told her it took me many days to learn to bike. It was the same for her older sister.  ...  read more