Real stories

Don’t Make These Fatal Mistakes in Your Job Search Communication

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For my full time job, I am hiring for 3 digital product managers to lead different aspects of end to end digital migration for our legacy private banking clients.  I wrote this post on Linkedin with some high level descriptions and asked those interested to DM me for a detailed job description.

A Real Example Of a Direct Message I Received

Below is a real message I received from a candidate interested in my posting.  I want to share it with you to help you avoid making the same fatal mistakes she made with her first communication to me, the hiring manager. ...  read more

My Failures in My 20s and What I Learned from Them

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I have never shared these stories before.  Perhaps it’s because it took me 20+ years to realize that I do not need to be ashamed of my “failures.”  Each one taught me something and in reality ended up working out better for me.  🙂  When they happened however, they were devastating to me and especially to my ego. ...  read more

I Have Always Been “Lucky” – Here is How You Can Be Too

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As I look back on 2021, I told Hubby we have been very lucky in our life and at my work.   He said “Lei, we make our luck.”  I said “I know, but what does that really mean?”  I always believed in it but had trouble explaining it to others.   Luck is after all based on random chance, right? ...  read more

What NOT to Do on LinkedIn – Three Key Tips

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Something weird happened to me on LinkedIn over the weekend.  I thought I share to help remind both you and I of what NOT to do on LinkedIn.     This really happened just two days ago.

Here is the backstory

I get a lot of requests to connect on LinkedIn, some from folks I know but many from folks I don’t know at all.    A month ago, I accepted an invite from someone I thought my husband mentioned I should meet.  Let’s call him Paul. ...  read more

Want to Learn Something New, Then What’s Stopping You

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Alexis, my 9 year old, was asking me all week to teach her how to ride a bike. Finally, I had time on Sunday to lower the seat on her sister’s bike and take her out. Alexis has never been on a two-wheel bike before.

Day 1 of Learning

When we got to the park, I realized she was expecting to learn how to ride the bike that day! When she didn’t get it after a few tries, she was upset. I told her it took me many days to learn to bike. It was the same for her older sister.  ...  read more

Having a Bad Day or Bad Month? Read this and You will Feel Better

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Has work been less than ideal? Has life been giving you lemons? it’s not been easy for many with the Covid crisis. I know friends who have lost their jobs and a neighbor who unexpectedly got cancer. Life can be hard.

We probably all have a lot to complain about right now . However, all I feel today is gratitude to be alive. You can have this perspective too if you read this article. Holly was 27-year-old. She died of cancer and left behind final advice  ...  read more

How to Deal with the Unexpected – Shift Your Action to Shift the Outcome

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We all have to deal with the unexpected at work and in life.   It is how we choose to respond to these obstacles that shifts the outcome.    The following is a personal story to illustrate my point.   If you came with us on this beach trip, how would you have reacted?

Trip to the Beach

It took some convincing but my mom reluctantly agreed to go to the beach.   Ever since COVID started, my mom has refused to go anywhere, even after being fully vaccinated.  She is the most comfortable at home.  She doesn’t like surprises and lately she seems to see the negative in every situation.    My dad wanted to take her to the beach but she has refused many times. Now that I was visiting for a week, she finally agreed and lamented that dad and I were gaining up on her. ...  read more