Self awareness

Do You Work to Live or Live to Work – Answer These 10 Questions

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When I ask this question “do you work to live or live to work?  You may say, “I work to live.”  However are your actions and decision consistent with this response?  Below are 10 questions you can ask yourself to find out if you truly work to live.

Why the Answer to This Question is Not Simple

I think society has taught us – “To be happy we should work to live and not live to work.” as no one on their death bead ever regrets not working enough.   As a result, whenever anyone is asked this question, very few would ever admit that they live to work.  It’s just not as cool.   Our quick answer that “I work to live” actually means – “I want to work to live.  I don’t want to live to work as life is too short. ” ...  read more

How to Improve Your Life and Work Today? Try OACS

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I have been interviewing therapists to see if I can find one that is a good fit.   This post is not about recommending you to get a therapist.  That’s totally up to you.   It’s about sharing a useful tip one therapist shared with me that immediately improve my perspective and thus my life and work.   Apply OCAS!  What is OCAS?  I will get to that in a few paragraph. ...  read more

I Turned 50 and I Am Learning the Art of Not Giving a “F*ck”

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Hubby gave me a funny present for my birthday this year (see below).   He knows me well and it’s exactly what I needed.  I really cannot believe I am half a century old.  When I say I am 50 to others, I feel like I am talking about someone else.   I always thought that someone who is 50 years old is old and also have their sh*t together because they know how life works by this time. ...  read more

Should I Take a Leave from Work? Absolutely Yes and Here is Why

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Looking back, I have taken 5 leaves from work already in my 20+ year career.  Some happened unexpectedly and others intentional.  Each time it was a difficult decision or unexpected turn of events.   I want to share my story in case it can help you think about whether you should take a leave from work. ...  read more

What’s Important But Not Urgent That You Are Not Doing for Your Career

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Recently, we had a group coaching call on how to increase your productivity – how to maximize and optimize the use of your mental and emotional energy so that you achieve your desired outcome.  One of the topics we touched on was a common mistake most people make in their career – neglecting to do what’s important but not urgent.  ...  read more

Don’t Make These Fatal Mistakes in Your Job Search Communication

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For my full time job, I am hiring for 3 digital product managers to lead different aspects of end to end digital migration for our legacy private banking clients.  I wrote this post on Linkedin with some high level descriptions and asked those interested to DM me for a detailed job description.

A Real Example Of a Direct Message I Received

Below is a real message I received from a candidate interested in my posting.  I want to share it with you to help you avoid making the same fatal mistakes she made with her first communication to me, the hiring manager. ...  read more

The Most Detrimental Thought That We All Believe to Be True

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Do you believe that your thoughts have power?  They have the power to either  inspire you to greatness or hinder/incapacitate you to a small life.

What is the Most Detrimental Thought We can Have?

We think of this thought weekly.  And worse of it, we believe it to be true.  In fact, everyone around us believe the same because society all around us perpetuate this lie.    The most detrimental thought we can have is these 5 little words.  “I will be happy when…” We all fill in the blank after these 5 little words ...  read more